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Personality: Lillie A. Estes

Spotlight on Mothers of Courage Award winner

1/22/2016, 5:58 a.m.
Lillie A. Estes first got involved in efforts to improve the community as a high school student in Newport News. …

Lillie A. Estes first got involved in efforts to improve the community as a high school student in Newport News. Friends urged her to join the NAACP Youth Council.

Decades later, her community betterment work continues in Richmond, where she has been a resident for many years and active with several advocacy groups.

Ms. Estes says the 2010 murder of her son, John Williams II, just three days shy of his 24th birthday further fueled her efforts. She calls his death, and that of other young people, “an indictment of our city leadership.”

“When our children are growing up, they have such limited options. We’re duty bound to provide better options so our children will make better choices,” she says.

Among her efforts: Ms. Estes serves on the advisory board of the city’s Maggie L. Walker Initiative for Expanding Opportunity and Fighting Poverty. The group presented an action plan to Mayor Dwight C. Jones in 2013 to help alleviate poverty in Richmond, where one in four city residents lives at or below the poverty level. The mayor’s Office of Community Wealth Building, whose task is to help implement poverty-fighting initiatives, grew from those recommendations. She also serves on the board of the Virginia Poverty Law Center.

Ms. Estes recently was feted for her community service by another group in which she’s active — Mothers for Justice and Equality, a national group based in Boston whose mission is to empower mothers to end violence in the streets. The group presented her with its Mothers of Courage Award in Boston in November at its conference, “Mothers Against Violence: Empowering Women to Action.”

“I was deeply honored and humbled,” Ms. Estes says of winning the award. She joined the group in 2006.

“We, as an organization, are moving in the direction of galvanizing the mothers of children adversely impacted by violence within our communities nationwide to be the change agents that assist in transforming our communities,” she says. This week’s Personality is the courageous Lillie A. Estes:

Date and place of birth: Aug. 6 in Hampton.

Education: Bachelor’s degree, Virginia Commonwealth University.

Family: One son, Tobias R. Estes.

Occupation: Community strategist with A Lillie Original Community Strategy, a for-profit designed to build communities.

How I got news that I was an award winner: I was informed by David J. Harris, managing director of the Charles Hamilton Houston Institute for Race & Justice at Harvard Law School.

What is needed to stop the violence in communities: Violence will stop within our community after the disinvestment of our community is restored and behavior rapport building among our neighbors begins anew. This re-engagement of behavior rapport development must be led in plain sight by the leaders of our community consistently.

Communities can do more if: The expectation is set with a profound focus on humanity. Imagine if we greeted each other every day with a pleasantry and affirmation how different to the good our disposition would become. The hostility among us would have no choice but to go away. We can then remain consistent with our community work.

I first decided to become an advocate for social justice because: I have always had a passion for equity of approach and have worked to make those things happen. My high school Black Humanities Club hosted German exchange students and during the 1970s that was a big deal. We pulled it off with the students really being appreciative of the cultural humanity education experience. 

My definition of justice and peace: A state of consciousness that allows our every living moment to emanate from a place of pure love among one another no matter what. When we can have that type of desire for every human is when the outward manifestation of our improved morale will be felt among each of us. Competition and hatred will cease to exist is my thought and fervent prayer.

What motivates me: The presence of God in my life.

In a perfect world, my job would be: Doing what I do now. I am a community strategist.

What makes me tick: Is an extension of my community work. It is making sure that we as community leaders work to re-apply the better options for our children to make better choices in order to improve the quality of their life. No child should believe that they should kill and/or harm another human in this world.

Definition of success: Is a personal experience of being content with the daily work that I do to improve humanity one person at a time according to the need at that time. If it is beyond what I am humanly capable of doing, then my next job is to pray for that individual and let God Almighty do the work.

My friends say: “Don’t talk to Sam (her family’s nickname for her) unless you want to hear the truth.”

Best late-night snack: Peanut butter and saltines.

Perfect day: Watching old movies.

Perfect evening: Talking on the phone with some of my longtime friends in order to stay connected on life happenings.

I start the day with: Meditation and prayer.

Nobody knows that I: Love a good piece of paisley patterned clothing.

The one thing I can’t stand: Is for a person who is lying to me to think that they will never be found out.

Person who influenced me the most: Besides my parents, the late civil rights attorney Samuel W. Tucker and current Congressman Robert C. “Bobby” Scott.

What I’m reading now: Federal code of regulations.

My next goal: To raise the awareness of the importance of Charles Sidney Gilpin to the thespian community. Mr. Gilpin’s acting career is said to have launched the careers of renowned playwright Eugene O’Neill and the legendary actor Paul Robeson. And yet very few people in his hometown know anything about him. There should be at least one theater in his hometown named in his honor. I would love to work with someone or a group of someones to make that happen with a component that also educates Richmond Public Schools students about him.